We can pray to God: "Teach me Your ways," knowing that our way may be different. We are trained in quid pro quo rather than unconditional love. If we feel hurt by a relationship, we may think, "It's his fault; let him apologize first." But God's way isn't so much about what is coming to me, but what is coming through me. God's way is not about the love I'm getting but the love I'm giving.