We've been trained to think in linear ways. If I give to you, then you should give to me. I will call you, but be sure to call me. I'll send a card on your birthday, but remember when my birthday comes. More subtly, we may serve others, expecting to feel bolstered by their praise or . By keeping score, we live in separation, diminishment, fear, pain and pressure. So try this experiment: Reach out where you are moved to do so, expecting nothing in return. What happens as you move out of quid pro quo thinking?